- Attitude is big part of
the "you" package
- Change here is most important and costs nothing
- Your new attitude will make the difference.
Sitting home watching television, one thing is for
sure, you crave and need companionship
- and you should have discovered by now that
you're certainly not going to meet Mr. or Ms. wonderful
sitting home watching TV.
Unless you fall in love with
the mailman, odds are Mr. Right or
Ms. Terrific are not going to come knocking on your
door.
It is going to take a lot of effort on your part, a
lot of personal discipline to get dressed up and go
out when it would be much easier to take a hot shower
and go to bed.
- True you have to be alone for awhile
to get up enough "tired
of being alone" motivation to get
yourself going.
- But now that you have made up your mind to try it
again let's see what we can do about changing your
attitude.
- Your attitude will make
the difference between being bitter about
results, or with the right attitude life can be pretty
good if you're still smarting from the divorce or
your last big hurt, read
some good books on a positive mental attitude.
Remember, everybody has scars from emotional hurts,
just as everybody has problems and troubles.
- If you could see other peoples' problems I am sure
you would usually wish you had yours back.
With your new positive mental
attitude, you will be looking for the
good in the people you meet and confident
in expecting to find it is indeed a great world.
Eliminate
"can't" from your vocabulary
and take a good wack at "Impossible"
and "I don't want to."
If you think it is impossible to find an exciting person
to spend the evening or a lifetime with, well then it
probably is.
- A negative attitude about single life is something
you have to fight against.
- You need to gain a confidence that you are a great
person in a great world and you are out to meet a
great companion.
- Everything else is going to take a back seat in
priority until you firmly develop this positive outlook.
You are a product - a singles product - if you want
to attract the right person then you have got to make
yourself the right person for someone else.
- Part of being that right person is as we said, your
attitude.
- If you're still sour grapes over your divorce, or
whatever, you are probably not going to be the right
person for anyone.
- Work on being a positive personality.
Okay, lets say we now have your mental attitude straightened
out and we now need to polish up and package the product
(you). Basically we all have about the same materials
to work with, the difference is how we shape it up and
package it.
In short our image ...
All the world is a stage and are you showing the image
that you really want to show? Sort of step out of your
body and stand back and take a good look at yourself.
- Are you put together and packaged to be attractive,
a wanted commodity by the opposite sex?
- Re: Clothes.
Select clothes that match your figure and colors that
complement your personality. Avoid anything far out
until you really know where you are at. No extremes,
but do buy clothes that are fashionable.
- Re: Hair.
If you or a friend can do your hair in in a professional
manner fine. Otherwise this is one area your probably
g oing to have to continually spend a few bucks weekly
for professional beauty parlor assistance.
For men and women both, there is that basic fundamental
that should not be overlooked. A good daily shower plus
one before going out. Underarm deodorant along with
brushing the ivories are all fundamentals that shouldn't
be overlooked.
Basically it is - show the other person you care enough
about your appearance and make it a habit you do automatically
even when you are relaxing over a weekend.
Ladies, when you go the the powder room check appearance
out and don't come out until you have complete and total
confidence that everything is just right.
- Men and women both - don't comb your hair etc. out
in public.
- Primp in privacy, in the powder room etc.
You will soon find what clothing or appearances, hair
style etc. work the best for you. I have even heard
of women bringing a change of clothing, wig, etc. along
to a dance and if something isn't working or just not
right, change.
- Now that might seem a little extreme to you but
it does illustrate that packaging does and can make
a difference.
- But most of all package yourself so you have complete
confidence you can successfully compete with all those
other packages.
Your attitude and self confidence
is going to have as much to do with your success and
popularity as anything else and it doesn't cost you
a nickel.
If you have some physical impairment remember you aren't
competing on a purely physical basis. Intellectually
you can compete 100% so don't let physical impairment
slow you down.
Now that you have confidence you have the right
attitude and right packaging, you haven't skipped any
fundamentals, then you are ready to move into a new
game. It's called get out and
see and be seen as often as possible, much as possible.
Soon great things will happen!
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