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How do you really know if it is lust or love. In a
life time the average person falls in love at least
4 times. But is it really love? Here are a few signs
to be aware of before you decide if he is the right
one.
Communication
Being honest with each other in a relationship is very
important and it is also important that you get to know
the person properly before you commit yourself. How
well do you know him/her? Is the only talking you do
bedroom talk?
Good signs
- You talk openly about life issues such as finances,
children, things that frighten you, where you want
your life to go.
- You can argue and come to some sort of compromise
at the end of it. Better still you argue, it proves
that you have the ability to talk.
- You are open and honest with each other about your
feelings.
Warning signs
- You only know his favourite colour, what paper he
reads. You are afraid to ask him indepth questions
about his life for fear of rejection or what you might
find out.
- You don't discuss how you are feeling with each
other and it builds up inside you, often causing resentment
of each other.
- Neither of you is willing to forgive one another.
Love
I don't believe a long lasting relationship/marriage
can survive without love. So is it love or are you
just kidding yourself?
Good signs
- In a crisis you stand by each other no matter what
the result.
- You make sacrifices to make the other person happy.
- You are truthful and honest and don't keep secrets
from one another.
- You are emotionally, physically and mentally compatible.
- You are friends as well as lovers.
Warning signs
- When the going gets tough, he/she gets going.
- He has an eye for the ladies and has proved to be
untrustworthy.
- He/She lies to you about where he/she has been and
only confesses when you find out the truth.
- There is little physical affection, laughter, or
communication between the two of you.
- He/She has been unfaithful on numerous occassions.
Respect
A relationship is about friendship, respect, and acceptance
of one another. When there is lack of respect for the
other, trust and respect is replaced by suspicion and
can slowly grow to hatred.
Good signs
- You are aware of your partner's faults and are able
to accept some imperfections.
- You support and encourage each other’s individual
interests and identity.
- You take the time to listen and understand the other's
point of view.
Warning signs
- You criticize each other in front of others.
- He/She will not give you space to indulge in your
interests and wants to spend every minute of the day
with you.
- You are constantly struggling to live up to his/her
standards or the person you think he/she wants you
to be.
- You can't forgive and/or forget each others mistakes.
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