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Your friend has just set you up with a guy you have
never met and know nothing about, except what she has
told you. You have those fears. What if I don't like
him or what if I like him but he doesn't like me. Well
don't worry, we are here to help.
Keep an open mind
Remember this is a blind date. You have never seen this
guy before. Don't form a mental image of him or have
high expectations. You will only be disappointed if
he is not how you imagined. You will know within the
first few minutes whether you are attracted to him or
not.
Keep it short, but sweet
Don't arrange to meet at the cinema, for dinner or anywhere
else that could keep you together for more than an hour.
Arrange to meet up for a coffee or during your lunch
break. If you are not interested in the guy then you
can make a quick exit. If you have only agreed to meet
for half an hour or an hour, and if you do like him,
then you can stay where you are or arrange to meet up
again.
Way out
It is crucial, when on a blind date that you have an
escape route. You could get a friend to call you 30
minutes into the date and if you don't like him you
can make an excuse and leave.
If you do like him then you can tell your friend to
call you back later. (Remember to always let someone
know where you are.) You could tell him that you promised
your friend you’d go shopping an hour after you
and he planned to meet.
If the date is going well, pretend to go call her to
let her know that "you’re not up to going
shopping." You could get some friends to turn up
at the meeting point, and if things aren't going well
you can leave with them, however, if things are going
well tell them you will meet up with them later.
Meet ‘n’ Greet
One of the biggest mistakes people make when going on
a blind date is trying to be someone their not.
When meeting someone for the first time, be yourself.
Your personality will shine through only if you’re
not trying to be something you aren’t. While first
impressions are important, do not feel the need to wear
heels on a Sunday if you’d normally wear flip-flop
sandals. He wants to know who you are; not who you think
he wants you to be.
Better safe than sorry
While going on a blind date can be exciting and fun,
remember that you have no firsthand knowledge about
the person you are meeting. If you have been set up
through mutual friends, they will most likely have a
rough idea of your plans. But just in case, make sure
someone knows exactly where and when you’re meeting.
If the person you are meeting is a complete stranger,
you need to take even more precautions. Make sure someone
knows your whereabouts, knows the name of the person
you will be meeting, and how long the date is scheduled
for. You may want to have a friend join you, or "run
into you" about 15 minutes into the date to check
up on you.
Who's paying?
Make it clear from the start if you intend to pay for
half of everything. You may not want to feel like you
owe the guy anything.
Goodbye
Parting after a blind date has the potential to be very
awkward, but it doesn’t have to be! Should you
kiss him, if you like him? Should you tell him you aren’t
interested? It’s always best to do whatever you
think feels right. If you are interested in going out
with him again, make sure he knows it and tell him that
you will call. If you aren’t interested in seeing
him again, make sure that you let him know. It’s
better to be honest then stringing him along under false
hopes.
Getting to know him
Pay close attention to the things he says, which can
reveal a lot. Discussing taste in music, film, food,
and art can be a great way to find out if you have common
interests—or nothing in common at all!
You should also look for common "warning signs"
when on a blind date. If the guy does any of the following,
watch out!
- Talks about his ex-girlfriend throughout the date.
- Doesn’t offer to pay for the first date (or
the second, or third…)
- Speaks badly about his mother or ex-girlfriends.
- Treats the waiters, staff rudely or doesn’t
offer a tip.
- Remember, not everyones tastes are the same and
there will be things about a guy that you do not like,
such as baldness, lack of hygeine etc.. These are
your own warning signs so don't ignore them.
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